Tuesday, June 27, 2017

5 Ways to Deal With People Disappointing You

When dealing with people, disappointment is bound to happen. 

There will be times of hurt, lies, and disregard. Those moments will sting because you have feelings and those feelings are subject to bruising by the fickle attitudes, words, and unmet promises of others. So, what are you to do? How are you to deal with the element of uncertainty that comes in maintaining relationships (friendships, work relationships, romantic relationships, etc)? 

Here are a few quick tips that have proven effective in my life that might be helpful for you:

STOP THE "GREAT EXPECTATIONS"
Great expectations lead to great disappointments when those expectations are not met. Deal with people as they are -- human beings that are trying to figure out their path in this world, who don't have all the answers and are bound to make some mistakes / wrong choices along the way. Human beings that are just like you

WORK ON "YOU"
Chances are that you could do with some self-improvement when it comes to being a better friend, co-worker, partner, etc. Identify those qualities in others that disappoint you most and focus on diminishing those within yourself so that hopefully you end up disappointing those you care about less. For example, if you get offended by broken promises, be cautious of how quick you are to make promises to others and when you do, make it a priority to do your best to keep them. 

FORGIVE QUICKLY
Bitterness and resentment are poisonous and our days are too numbered to be wasted brooding over the actions, words, or behaviors of others. Forgive, let go...forgive, let go...and then repeat. Make this a life practice and you'll have a greater chance guarding your sanity and peace.

FOCUS ON THE BIGGER PICTURE
Nothing lasts forever. That includes hurt, pain, and bad circumstances. When you see things that way, what someone or others do that once seemed "devastating" or "heartbreaking" becomes a challenging life lesson to further your personal growth and acceptance of others. Sounds corny yes but that doesn't make it any less true. Your life experiences will shape you (for better or worse) based on your perspective of them. 

AFFIRM YOURSELF
Don't wait for anyone else to do it. Remember who God says you are and live in the security of His love and purpose for you. If you're not sure what He says about you, I recommend you start by reading the following article: What God Thinks About You -- it includes some great Scriptural references for your reading pleasure. Don't leave the constant renewal of your worth in the hands of others; it isn't fair to them -- they have their own ish to deal with. Take personal responsibility for your daily affirmation / sense of validation and enjoy the liberation that comes from it. 

And there you have it folks -- my 5 tips on handling disappointment derived from years of glorious experience :)

Any additional tips on dealing with disappointment that you've found useful? Please share in the comments section below -- I'd love to know. 

Until the next post. 


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  1. I had to realize that people can be controlled by the enemy. and they have no idea what they are doing. Even Jesus said, "Forgive them, for they know not what they do." They are just trying to get their needs met. Remember. hurting people hurt people.
    Tracey L. Moore, Author of Oasis for My Soul: Poems and Inspirational Writings for Spiritual and Personal Growth

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