Thursday, July 17, 2014

I'm A Christian Woman and I'm Independent!



I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T
Do you know what that means? 
She got her own house. 
She got her own car. 
Two jobs, work hard, you a bad broad. 
If you ain’t on, sit down! 
If you ain’t on, sit down! 
If you ain’t on, sit down! 
If you ain’t on, sit down!

A few of the lyrics from the wildly popular song, “Independent”, by rapper Webbie. I used to jam to it a few years ago in the car like nobody’s business. Shoot, it became a sort of anthem for ladies. Now is the song catchy?

Yes.

Is it also misleading?

Y-E-S.

The idea of independence is alluring and gets all our feminist juices flowing, but in reality Christian ladies,  it is a successful distraction from Christian truth.

Truth: You cannot be a Christian and an independent woman.

Don’t shoot me!

 I am not a supporter of women’s oppression.  I promise. Just hear me out. I am speaking as someone who desires to be a Christian woman and is eager to understand what that fully means. Through studying scripture and learning about the life of Christ I have noticed that nothing about Christianity promotes your independence. In fact, the entire basis of Christianity is dependencedependence on faith, dependence on God’s Word, dependence on God’s grace, dependence on God’s hope, and dependence on God’s son, Jesus Christ.

Christ says that if we are to truly live for him, then we must die to our selves, pick up our crosses, and follow Him. If that’s the case, dying to yourself means killing your self-reliance on a daily basis. It means becoming utterly dependent on Christ and His Word as your lamp and guide through life. It means following his footsteps and not looking down for your own. Simply put ladies, your dependence on Christ leaves no room for you to be independent.  If you are independent, you will miss His mark. Now I know what you’re thinking,

“Ada is talking jazz.” (well, this is what you're thinking if you're a Naija gal:)

I mean what am I really trying to say? That you can’t be an intellectual and speak your mind? That you can’t become a creative force that goes on to impact the world positively? That you can’t wear what you want to wear or visit the places you want to go to or choose the friends you want to have?

I’m not saying that at all.

What I'm saying is that if you are a Christian, your purpose here is to become more like Christ. What I'm saying is that if you’re a Christian, you need to surrender your hopes, plans, and desires to the Will of God. What I'm saying is that if you are a Christian, you should be mindful of aligning your daily life choices to that of the choices Christ made in his life. What I'm saying is that if you are a Christian, you have to make a lifetime habit of consulting Christ regarding all your decision-making. What I'm saying is that if you are a Christian, your love for Christ needs to be greater than your love for self. What I'm saying is that if you are a Christian, you will have no room for independence.  (Look at the apostle Paul. He made it very clear in scripture that he was 100% dependent on Christ  in his life and work).

Now if you are not a Christian, I understand this might not sit well with you…shoot, this might not sit well with a ton of Christians. However, the only way you truly have love for and faith in your beliefs is to stand by them. And for those of us who choose to be Christians, we must accept the call to become like and follow Christ.
 
We must have total dependence on Christ.

Now I’m not saying this will be easy. We live in a world where “everyone” wants to be independent. That pressure can be suffocating. Not to mention the opposition you will face from others…and from yourself. You will stumble and mess up at times. You will get upset and angry about it at times. You won’t always understand or trust Christ’s way. You will want to throw in the towel and just “do you” at times. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t know the feeling. But no matter what ladies, if you are determined to be a Christian you must be determined to allow your love for Christ to keep leading you back to complete and total dependence on Him. It is the only Christian way to go.

So my Christian chicas, the question is simple: will you be a Christian woman or an independent woman?

The choice is yours.

Choose wisely/:

What do you think, ladies? Do you think being a Christian woman requires you to be dependent on Christ? Do you think you can be a Christian and an independent woman? Leave a comment below:)

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7 comments:

  1. truth
    we should all be God-dependent

    thanks ma'am

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  2. Pls we are still waiting for your book. Thank you

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    1. Hey! Sorry, I didn't write an official post for the book today! Below is the link for the ebook:

      http://www.deserveyourgreatlife.com/p/get-ugly-ebook.html?m=1

      Let me know what you think of it!:)

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    2. I just finished reading the book now. Its great! Thank you

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    3. You're welcome! I'm happy you found it helpful:)

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  3. I loooovvvvveeee u ada,been going tru ur posts,they are really wonderful. This one is a blessing ma'am

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