Monday, June 16, 2014

The Beauty Of Your Compliments



“I can live for two months on a good compliment.”Mark Twain

Compliments are magical.

They have the power to change your thoughts, mood, and actions. A delicious compliment can lift your spirits and put a smile on your face. Compliments are your way of acknowledging another person’s existence and effort. Compliments are your way of showing love and generosity to others; family, friends, co-workers, strangers. They create a domino effect because the more compliments you give people, the more people are willing to give compliments to others. Compliments don’t cost you any money and they are great mood-boosters. Compliments are another way in which you can be of service to people and people can be of service to you.

If you want a low-cost way to be a miracle for people, start complimenting them. 

We are born to be miracles for one another. We are born to say and do things for others that impact them spiritually and inspire hope, gratitude, generosity, empathy, and love in them. Look at compliments in the Bible. When talking about John the Baptist, Jesus Christ said, “…among those born of women there has not risen anyone greater than John the Baptist…” Now that’s a pretty nice compliment. We should all be in the business of complimenting people yet many times we are stingy and unwilling to give compliments - discomfort and fear tend to be the culprits here. Truth: We should make it a habit to give compliments freely.

If you want a low-cost way to be a miracle for people, start complimenting them.

To be fair, John the Baptist was extremely humble and full of faith, proclaiming the kingdom of God and helping people rid themselves of their spiritually harmful past ways. He made it pretty easy for Christ to give him such a compliment. In all honesty, sometimes people make it hard to give them compliments. Sometimes people are so arrogant and pompous that your desire to compliment them goes right out the window. Sometimes people are so ungrateful that when you do compliment them, they get a smug look on their face and say something unappreciative like, “Yes, you’re right. I do look freaking good...I am one of the brilliant ones…I am a great actor.” It is not easy to compliment a person when they behave this way. 

It can be downright painful. 

And then there are the other unsavory recipients of a compliment. The ones you compliment that give you a nasty look with no response or in some cases, a scared look because they think you’re trying to hit on them! (I’d be lying if I say this hasn’t happened to me.)

What do you do now? What should your strategy be? How do you know who to compliment and who not to compliment?

You don’t.

So, go ahead and keep complimenting people anyways. It doesn’t matter the ones that respond in an arrogant or unsavory manner. What matters are the positive effects your compliments will have on the people that need to hear them. What matters is that your “You have a beautiful smile!” compliment today can make a world of difference to the woman that woke up this morning feeling unpretty, unhappy, and invisible. What matters is that your “I see God’s goodness in you; I know you will do great things!” compliment can make a world of difference to the person that has been feeling insecure and doubtful of their abilities, afraid that they won’t be able to live up to their God-given purpose. What matters is that your “I love you. You matter to God. You matter to me. The world needs you.” compliment can make a world of difference to the beaten-down alcoholic struggling to find purpose who had decided to commit suicide later on tonight after work.

If you want a low-cost way to be a miracle for people, start complimenting them.

You don’t know the level of impact your compliment can have on a person. You don’t know what thoughts that stranger sitting next to you on the bus might be plagued with. You don’t know what your co-worker is dealing with at home. You don’t know what your daughter or sister or brother might be struggling with. You honestly don’t know. The one thing I can assure you is that your compliments have the power to change a person’s thoughts, mood, and actions. Your compliments are valuable, and you should use them to be a continual miracle for those around you.

If you want a low-cost way to be a miracle for people, start complimenting them. 

What are your thoughts on this, ladies? Do you believe compliments have been important in your life? Are you one for complimenting others regularly? Have you been afraid to give people compliments because of the way they might react? Leave a comment below:)

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6 comments:

  1. Such a nice post thank you for posting! :)

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    1. No problem, Cathy! And thank you for your compliment.

      I checked out your blog and I think it's so cool that you get to teach English in Spain! I spent a few days in Madrid back in 2008 and I liked it - even though I didn't do too much exploring. I know I liked the food lol. Hopefully I will go back and explore the place some more:)

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  2. Great post! I think people should also learn to receive compliments as well as give them. Talking from my own personal experience, I have a lot to learn about accepting compliments gracefully. Lol

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    1. Thanks, Cassandra! I am still mastering the art of receiving compliments myself lol. I never want to come off arrogant but I also don't want to be ungrateful either.

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  3. Great post! I think people should also learn to accept compliments as well as give it out. I know I have a lot to learn about accepting compliments gracefully. Lol

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