Monday, May 19, 2014

25 Things Every Woman Should Know By 25

As we grow older, we learn and understand more. 

I’m 27 and there are so many things I was clueless about that I am finally realizing and accepting. The good news is that the more you know and accept the truth, the more peace and joy you will experience. Here are 25 things I’ve learned that I believe every woman should know by 25.  

1. If you can’t imagine him as the father of your child, don’t have sex with him. There’s a great chance a baby might be his parting gift to you.

2. Your boyfriend/husband cannot complete you. Stop expecting him to. Go to GOD for completion. 

 3. Watching Reality TV actually makes you lose touch with reality.

4. If you don’t know what ‘tangible’ means, you should be reading books a lot more.

5. Being vulnerable doesn’t make you “weak”. It actually makes you open, honest, and relatable.

6. If it comes easily, it will go easily. Yes, money applies here too.   

7.  If you want to know what the world is really like, travel. A lot.  

8. Pain is a normal part of life and it happens to EVERYBODY. You’re not alone.  

9.“Smart people learn from their own mistakes. Wise people learn from the mistakes of others.” Try to have more wise moments in life.  

10. Smile at strangers. Yours will probably be the only smile many of them get during the day.  

11. Stop calling people EXTRAORDINARY. It just gives you another excuse not to do great things with your life.  

12. Stop expecting other people to “get” your dreams in the beginning. They’re your dreams, not theirs.  

13. In 10 years, your life will be a direct result of the thoughts you are nurturing NOW, the words you are saying NOW, and the work you are doing NOW.  

14. Talk Less. Do more.

15. If you’re a Christian, you can’t live to please people. Some just won’t like you. Stand in your faith anyways.  

16. You don’t have to like everyone. You do, however, need to love everyone.  

17. If you spend all day body-watching people on Facebook and wonder why you’re unhappy a lot, it might be Facebook. Log out. 

18.“You are the sum of your five closest friends.”  Take a good look at your circle.  

19.  If you’re over 25, unmarried, with no children, it’s OK. God loves you too.  

20. You don’t have to be pretty to be happy. Happiness is a choice EVERYONE can make. 

21. You’re stressed because you want to be in control of everything. Only God is in control of everything. Enjoy going with the flow.  

22. Givers ALWAYS Get. Takers ALWAYS lose…eventually.  

23. Listen to your elders. You’d be surprised how much they know.  

24. You’ll find the really great opportunities in life when you step out of your comfort zone.  

25. Life isn’t fair. Have a great one anyways:)

What are your thoughts on these, ladies? Do you agree? Disagree? Are there any other life-truths you'd like to add to the list? Leave a comment below:)

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  1. Lovely! Great list.. Very very apt xx

  2. Umm, yea not sure I agree with reality tv makes you lose touch with reality. That's akin to grown people thinking tv shows are real. I am a reality tv addict but I'd like to think I have enough sense to know that reality shows is nowhere close to reality.

    1. I do see your point, Taynement, considering we are aware of the scripted nature of reality TV shows and the situations they create for the participants to be in.

      My point about losing touch with reality is from a more spiritual perspective. I believe we are all born with God-given purpose and with a call to be more compassionate, more understanding, more generous, more self-disciplined, and more forgiving of one another (which as a Christian I believe means to become more like Christ). I believe these shows only serve as a distraction from our "real" reason for being.

      I've studied a bit about our brains and 95% of our brain activity is subconscious (which most of our decisions and feelings are based from). In your 5% conscious mind you will think you've got a handle on what you're watching and you can separate what you see on TV from how you behave in your daily life, but your subconscious mind is filled with the images and words from these shows promoting violence, extreme anger, insecurity, mean-spirited behavior, materialism, etc.

      Then these patterns subconsciously show up in our lives with our growing intolerance towards others that are different, impatience when we don't get our way, feelings of lack when we don't have a certain amount of money or a husband-by-25 or the 22-inch weave, and our at-the-drop-of-a-hat ability to judge others and hold on to grudges.

    2. I agree with the you on that one. That's why I rarely watch TV or listen to secular music. They get in your head subconsciously. I find being a christian helps me to look into the hidden messages on everything I see and hear.

    3. My dear, I have become more selective about what I watch on TV and the music I listen to o! The effects are beyond what we realize. And like you said, being a growing Christian in faith, I am seeing more of the hidden messages clearly.

  3. I also agree you can watch reality tv and still be true to yourself oh. That point on vulnerability also doesn't sit well with me, I'm not sure how to explain that. I do agree with the rest though. Useful post

    1. I actually consider the vulnerability point to be one of the most important ones, Miss TLG. I don't think we can really experience the great joy of life if we are not honest about who we are, our strengths, our weakness, when we succeed, and when we fail (spiritually, professionally, etc). I think if we refuse to be vulnerable we shortchange ourselves from connecting with other human beings because it is through empathy, accepting one another as imperfect, and encouragement that we engage with others in life better.

      Now I don't mean living a "TMI" life:) I just mean having the willingness to be honest and share with another your authentic experience when the opportunity is presented.

  4. This list is very much on point and just so you know, it's number 3. Watching Reality TV actually makes you lose touch with reality. that I agreeee so much with. :) It's like you read my mind because when I hear some people talk, I just know this person has been watching too much of Kim K or something of the sort(and I'm talking spiritual things here)

    Thank you so much for this. Well written too. :)

    1. You're welcome! And thank you for reading plus commenting:)

      I had to include the reality TV point because I saw firsthand just how continuous exposure to such shows started increasing the judgment, intolerance, and lack of empathy people had for one another (not to mention that when I watched such shows regularly in the past I too became comfortable with negative character qualities that made me less of a loving and forgiving person - "No" to that! lol )

  5. Hi, really great work you've got here. I could apply some myself

    1. Hey, Charis! Thank you for reading the post and leaving a kind comment - I appreciate you :)

      I'm happy you found yourself able to apply some of the points. Which ones resonated with you the most?