Thursday, March 27, 2014

5 Ways You Can Love Alone Time

In the last post I addressed the importance of alone-time.

It is essential if you want a life centered on God that is full of truth, gratitude, generosity, happiness, and fulfillment. I realize that as an introvert – who tends to sway more towards moments of solitude – I have a natural affinity for alone-time and not everyone likes it/knows how to enjoy it. Below are my 5 tips on how to enjoy alone-time (if you don't already):

   1. Music - I absolutely LOVE listening to music when I am alone. I love shuffling through my Pandora stations and jamming to songs that I haven’t heard in a while but still tug at my heart. I love new jams but I absolutely love older songs and you’ll catch me listening to anything from “Igwe” by D'Banj  (my Naija peeps know what I’m talking about) to “Higher Love” by Steve Winwood to "How Will I Know" by Whitney Houston. (I recommend high-energy songs that’ll get you out of your seat and dancing. Yes, it means you'll be dancing alone. Yes, it means you might be weird.)

2.       Create Content – If you’re a writer, write. If you’re a singer, record songs. If you’re a painter, paint. If you’re a chef, try out new recipes or revamp old ones. The secret to success: The more you practice, the more you improve, and the better you become. 

3.       Read Great Books – I’ve already talked about the importance of reading in one of my previous posts, Is Your Vision Limited, and I stand by it. I’ve made it a habit to read my Bible daily (a chapter a day) and REFLECT on the Word I read – preferably in the morning to feed my spirit before my day goes into full swing. I’m also making it a habit to read personal development books and other books that interest me like autobiographies and novels. FYI, some of my favorite books of all-time include The Stranger by Albert Camus, Metamorphosis by Franz Kafka, all Harry Potter books – I do mean ALL, 1984 by George Orwell, a slew of Agatha Christie mystery novels, Mom and Me and Mom by Maya Angelou, Start With Why by Simon Sinek, and Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. There are many more but I will stop here for now.

4.       Talk to God – yep, talk to God. This is a very introspective and spiritual practice that we all should be engaging in. Tell God about your day, your hopes, your vision(s), your high points and your low points. Ask for clarity on the areas you are stuck in, on the next step to make in your personal/business life, on what bad behaviors you NEED to stop (yes, not everything you do is right and some things are killing your spirit), and on what good behaviors you NEED to start. LISTEN for his answer in your spirit. It’s always there; you have to be still, tell the voices in your head to shut up, and LISTEN.

5.       Write in your gratitude journal – This is crucial. If you don't have a journal, I recommend you buy one. Life can feel so hectic and it can seem like you are always on a never-ending quest for more and more and more and more…oh yeah, and more. It is important to use these quiet moments by yourself to reflect on the amazing blessings of people, experiences, lessons, and opportunities that you’ve had in your life and that you currently have in your life. As you remember them, jot them down in your gratitude journal. Whenever you are feeling discouraged or the “less than” mindset comes on, go back to it to remind yourself of just HOW MUCH YOU REALLY HAVE. 

There you have it folks. Those are my five tips on how to love alone-time. I implemented these not too long ago in my own life and they have brought me tremendous joy. I hope they do the same for you too. Are there any of the tips above that you already practice during your alone-time? How have they worked for you? Are there any other tips you have? Leave a comment below so we can discuss it.

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  1. Being alone is hard but once you've mastered it, it's wonderful and I love it!

    1. Thank you for commenting, Ashley:) It can be daunting to spend time alone when you're so used to being around others but if you make the effort to use the time well and keep at it, you will begin to enjoy it so much.