Hey Beautiful people! I hope you had a fantastic weekend. Today I want to talk about what I consider good parenting. I recently heard about a young girl who had been caught by her parents posting
I look at the youngsters coming up today and I am appalled by the behaviors of so many of them. Children with no concept of the words "good morning", "please", and "thank you". Teenagers roaming the streets and club-hopping all hours of the night. Young girls wearing scantily clad outfits and posting inappropriate pictures of themselves online for the world to see. Teenagers smoking, snorting, and injecting any and all drugs they can get their hands on. Young teens frequently having unprotected sex with no knowledge of their partners sexual history. Why you ask? Because they feel uninhibited and are clueless about the concept of boundaries. Why you ask? Well that's easy to answer; because many parents are afraid to parent.
Modern parents have a hard time drawing the line between being their child's parent and being their child's friend. A lot seem to fall under the friend label. Wrong. You are first and foremost a PARENT; being a friend is a luxury, not a requirement. A good parent provides love for their children. A good parent provides security for their child (food, water, shelter, clothing, education, etc). I believe a good parent teaches their child the difference between right and wrong, and how to have respect for all people, especially authority figures. A good parent does not shy away from their responsibilites because their child may "get mad" at them. So what? Let the child get mad. They haven't lived as long as you have. They haven't made the same mistakes and dealt with the harsh repercussions. They think they have things all figured out, but they still have so much to learn. As a friend you risk raising spoiled, inconsiderate, and underachieving adults.They may want you to be a "cool" friend but what they need you to be is a REAL PARENT.
I see my parents as parents first, and friends second. We laugh, we joke, we enjoy each others company but I also know they have clearly-defined limits that I try not to cross. From childhood, they created structures and boundaries that my siblings and I had to adhere to. We didn't always think it was fair and we definitely thought they were "uncool" at times, but today we are all extremely thankful for the way they raised us. They gave us standards. My parents worked to instill moral and ethical values in their children. Now we're not perfect, but I can say that because of our parents we definitely believe in continuously building up our our character and being productive members of our society. Things that I'm sure we would have less concern for if we had "friends" raising us instead of parents.
So what do you think guys? Anyone agree with me here? Anyone disagree? Leave your comments down below...I can't wait to read them!:)