Sunday, March 10, 2013

How many times do I forgive?

Over and over and over again. I used to have a problem letting go of grudges. Whenever I felt someone wronged me I would replay their actions over and over in my mind and either act defensively towards them or ex-communicate them from my life. Foolish. I could have saved myself so much stress and headache by simply forgiving them. I don't mean just saying the words "I forgive you," or "I'm over it," or "I'm cool, she's dead to me anyways." I mean fully letting all the emotions of anger, resentment, and hatred go that the person has evoked from you.

Now I won't dare say that it's easy because it's not. But I will tell you that it's NECESSARY if you want to have a happy, blessed, and spiritually-sound life. The saying "forgiveness is for you, not the other person" is super cliche yet very much true. Forgive so that you are freed from the pain of the other person's actions. If that's not enough of a reason for you, forgive people because they are essentially just like you; flawed and imperfect. We have all made mistakes and hurt people at one point or another in our lives, and we've needed forgiving. If you focus on that basic truth then it will become much easier for you to extend the hand of forgiveness to others. So guys, I implore you to "dig deep," think of any person that has offended you - past or present - and finally say goodbye to any and all negative feelings you have towards them.


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    1. Thanks taynement! I write it as I learn it...this was definitely a big lesson for me.