Friday, September 14, 2012

Do yourself a favor, STAY PROTECTED!

Hey guys. This post is directed at both the ladies and gents. I'm sure many of you have recently heard in the news about the 36-year-old Texas man, Larry Dunn, that stabbed his mistress to death after she told him she was HIV-positive. Cicely Bolden was his 28-year-old mistress who declined to inform Dunn of her status before they began their physical relationship. Bolden had two children and Dunn is married with kids also. When asked why he engaged in unprotected sex with Bolden, Dunn says it was because she looked healthy and fit. Dunn is quoted as saying "She killed me, so I killed her." 

I don't even know where to begin with this. Let me first say that my heart goes out to the victims in this case; all the innocent children and Dunn's wife. Secondly, let me also mention that this tragedy could honestly have been avoided if not for the irresponsible behavior of both parties involved. Bolden was wrong for not sharing her HIV status with Dunn and he was 100% careless by not wearing a condom before they had sex. Let this be a lesson learned people. STOP HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX! 

When I look left, I see a teen pregnant. When I look right, I see a young woman with Herpes. I look again and I see a guy HIV-positive. This is madness! We are living in the 21st century people, you have NO more excuses. There is no reason why the rate of unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases keep rising with all the sex education available to us. There are condoms, birth control pills, and testing clinics everywhere. Don't rely on anyone else, protect yourself. 

I have friends that say they don't use protection because of a number of reasons; the guy is allergic to latex condoms, it kills the mood to pause and put on a condom, and some are on the pill so they rather not. Plain stupidity. If your guy is allergic to latex, there are non-latex condoms. Done. Preserving the "mood" does not outweigh preserving your health/life. Done. The pill protects against pregnancy, not sexually transmitted diseases. Done. 

Some people feel they don't need to protect themselves because they're in monogamous relationships. What guarantee do you have that your partner is monogamous? Because he/she told you? Lol...I wouldn't bet my life on simple words. The only time you should feel that comfortable with your partner is if you both get tested for STD's and HIV before you begin a sexual relationship and continue to get tested regularly. Yes, I know what you will say, all this testing and disease talk is "unromantic." Let me put it this way, I'd rather be alive and safely enjoying sex than sick on my way to an early grave . That's just me though, you have to decide what's best for you. 

Where do you stand guys? Do you think people aren't being sexually safe enough or do you think all these precautions are a bit excessive? 


  1. But this is a continuing problem and people dont learn or listen unless it hits close to home..this reminds me of Tyler Perry's movie with Janet Jackson (cant remember the name) where her husband slept with a man i believe and had aids and gave it to her i think...see me see trouble..WHAT TYPE OF LIFE IS THIS

    1. it is sheer inconsideration of your anger lies in people that not only cheat, but then dare to do it unprotected with any ol' chick that comes along their way